One of the amazing experiences of life  is LOVING .  I want to talk about the different manifestations of loving people: friendlyness is a state of being (if the word exists 🙂

in my practice when I am i contact with teenagers, being with friends boys and girls is even more important then dating actually. As human beings we love to have “good” companies, friends to share our moments with.

I always urge young men to “work out” communications skills to have good chances to make new friends: ex:

be curious about the other person but not invasive…

– pay attention to what the other one is saying, make eye contact.

– laugh about yourself if something goes wrong…don´t take yourself so seriously! 🙂

– breath ……….to be relaxed

– smile a lot

– when you feel annoyed try to express as soon as you can what upsets you

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O sentimento de Amar pode se manifestar de diferentes maneiras: hoje vou falar do amor na amizade!

Na verdade , conversando com muitos adolescentes no hospital, ficou muito claro que ter amigos e amigas é muitas vezes mais importante do que “ficar” ou ter “namorada”. Ter companheiras para sair, amigos para conversar faz muito bem para o florescer de sua personalidade. (de novo, na verdade, faz bem para a alma)

De todas formas existem recursos que se aprendem (praticando tanto na imaginação como na vida com o outro) que ajudam a criar vínculos de amizade e de relacionamento amoroso:

Mostre-se curioso mas não faça perguntas invasivas

– Preste atenção quando o outro fala e faça contato visual (olhar nos olhos)

-sonria

-ria de você mesmo….al final um erro é uma boa oportunidade para aprender mais coisas sobre você e sobre o outro! 🙂

– respira…………..assim você relaxa e o nervosismo vai sumindo.

About frederica cassis

My name is Frederica Dillen CASSIS, born of a Belgium mother and an Egyptian father, on the 3rd of January 1966 in Brussels, Belgium. I´ve travelled a lot, lived in many countries. Brazil is my seventh country and i live in Sao Paulo for 19 years now. Graduated in Clinical Psychology in 1991, I specialized in Junguian Psychology and in Hemophilia since then. LATEST PROJECTS: 1) Launching IN-HEMOACTION flash cards, where I added new topics like Inhibitors and their different treatments, physiotherapy and a some playful activities like video games! 2) HERO (Hemophilia Experiences Results and Opportunities) sponsored by Novo Nordisk since 2009, exploring through qualitative and quantitative analysis the psychosocial issues involving People with hemophilia, their carers and the health professionals in the treatment process. check this project in my blog www.blood4.wordpress.com Now, HERO is in Brazil! soon the results will be available. 2) P-TET (Pediatric Thrombosis Educational Tool) flash cards in evolution stage, for kids on anti-coagulant treatment...inspired on IN-HEMOACTION flashcards success. 3) I am a co-author along with psychologist Irene Fuchs and Edward Kuebler of a booklet called "Communication, love and sexuality for people with hemophilia, carriers and family" 4) an on going process of a systematic review for the Cochrane Collaboration about "psychological interventions for people with hemophilia and their families" On a more personal level i have 3 three great not anymore children :) Danaê 24, Rubi 18 and Iggy 15) and i love to jogg, dance and read. To walk and look for shells on a beach too and I discover that i love deserts...:)

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